How I got to therapy – pt 2

Deep thought

In part one, I shared parts of my life both highs and lows that I felt needed more balance.

Even those things that happened in the past left their mark and I wanted to know how to carry them better, put some of them down for good, etc.

I needed a coach. Same way I would use a fitness trainer or a basketball skills coach is how I use my therapist. To coach me on better practices for controlling my mind, emotions and perspectives.

In this episode, I detail a few different experiences, what worked and what didn’t.

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How I got to therapy

I didnt just hear about therapy and was like, word, that sounds good, let me check it out.

I offer you parts of my life that led me to use therapy/counseling as a tool to better understand myself, my feelings, behaviors and moods.

This episode was inspired by a brother named Steven from Roxbury.

The first of a series with a mental health and wellness focus.

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Dear Sheriff Tompkins

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Dear Sheriff,

I initially shook my head when I saw you post this. I wondered to myself if you are willfully ignorant of the fallacy you offered or whether you remain unaware.

I wondered as Suffolk county sheriff, if this is your lens, how much empathy and understanding you possess around civil unrest.

Then I looked to see all the people liking the post, many of whom would have probably at a minimum verbally assaulted Rosa Parks if they were on the bus. Because you and they seem to be all about “the law”. Whether just or not.

I get it though, you are now a law man.

I call this post bullshit. Rosa Parks is displaying a defiant act of civil unrest. She was met with violence. But you, through this post portray it as her peace created a peaceful resolution.  Bullshit.

It took over a year of a community boycotting and marching and carpooling and walking miles to work to change the racist policy. But you dishonor that sacrifice, that pursuit of justice with a graphic that almost trivialized the risk she is taking by just sitting.

I know, and I hope you know if Rosa Parks had set that bus a blaze, she probably been killed or critically wounded.

But here you offer her as a docile black woman when in fact she and others before her are taking a defiant risk so your ass could choose a seat.

I ain’t really #madatthehashtag

When thinking about my encounters and battles with racists and racism…

“At times, I feel sad, hurt, upset, angry and helpless. At times, I feel like I’m going insane in an effort to maintain my sanity. At times, I feel tired. Sometimes, I then  beat myself up mentally for feeling this way. I’m tired of that too!”

We may not agree on what needs to be done.
We may not know what needs to be done.

I hope we can agree more needs to be done because nothing to date has created meaningful, lasting change.

Somewhere deep down I fear becoming remembered through a hashtag.

But we’ll come back to the hashtag activism later…this recording discusses some of the mental health impacts the tens of thousands if not hundreds of thousands of murders like Ahmaud Arbery’s I believe has on myself and others.

 

Councilor Frank Baker (district 3) withholds consent on allowing a bill addressing…rent,mortgages, foreclosures and evictions.

Ok. Councilor Frank Baker temporarily stalls Councilor Arroyo’s bill to stop rents, mortgages, foreclosures and evictions in response to covid-19

So often when an issue is pressing, Councilors request a suspension of rules to allow an important or urgent bill to be voted on. To do so, the council needs unanimous consent. 13 saying yes. Then the issue can be heard and voted on without having to go to committee (usually cuz they are all in agreement). Councilor Frank Baker did not consent so the vote will take another week and may fall after you have paid another month of rent or mortgage while being laid off. Instead Dorchester’s Councilor decided on (Using rule 33 which roughly says; you just brought it up today! you can’t vote on it in the same meeting you introduced it).

Councilor Baker could’ve consented and voted no if he didnt agree allowing the other 12 to vote. Instead he temporarily stopped the process citing the fact he is a landlord.

The vote should be held and most likely be held next week. (Because that’s their next meeting and it wont be the first time it’s brought up) But by the time they vote it will be as poets Bone Thugs and Harmony say the “first of the month…wake up”

Councilor Baker represents Dorchester from Uphams Corner to Fields Corner to Neponset towards Ashmont.

#whosreppinyou

Now you should know, well, know if you want to know, but President Janey could’ve used a rule to move around his use of rule 33. She could’ve called an emergency meeting after ending the first and then called the vote making it the second meeting making rule 33 useless. All that may seem boring or even stupid to you but to me it’s like chess with real pieces. I love it!

But this isnt about President Janey, she was one of the 12 in consent of abandoning the rules to allow the same day vote.

I’ll be back to tell you what I would do if I were me.